Bully FAQ

Bullying in any form is cruel and hurtful.

Although bullying is often accepted as a normal part of growing up, it is part of an atmosphere of fear, anger, helplessness, and misery. Some victims become so depressed and distraught that they harm others and/or themselves and may consider or actually commit suicide.

The numbers are unsettling.

Unfortunately, bullying is an all too common occurence in our schools: An instance of bullying occurs in a school every seven minutes and 20–30% of school-age children are either a victim or a bully.1 In fact, “aggressive behavior and bullying are even more common in elementary school than in junior and senior high” and is most prevalent in second grade.2
 

Standing up for yourself doesn’t have to mean embracing violence.

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Shane Koyczan is a Canadian spoken-word poet who is alternatively hilarious and haunting as he puts his finger on the pulse of what it's like to be young ... and different. "To This Day" is a poem about bullying and survival. Watch his amazing TED talk performance (with backstory) and crowd-sourced by 80 animators. Violin accompaniment by Hannah Epperson.

 

Bully Basics
Learn what bullying is, what cyberbullying is, and what is the difference between bullying and rough play.

 

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Effects & Examples

Learn to identify if your child is involved by bullying. Use these examples from news accounts to be encouraged to pay attention and take action.

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Solutions & Resources

Here’s a list of solutions and resources to help solve this problem. But the key point is to make a plan and follow through.

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Cyberbullying: What School Administrators (and Parents) Can Do
by Andrew V. Beale and Kimberly R. Hall
The Clearing House (Vol. 81, No. 1) pp. 8-12. 2007.

Identifying and Documenting Bullying
by J.E. DiMarco and M.K. Newman
http://www.solutionsforbullying.com/files/BullySiteWhhtpap1.pdf

Bullies
by Laura DeHaan, , Ph.D.
February, 1997
http://www.ag.ndsu.edu/pubs/yf/famsci/fs570w.htm

Identifying: Yes it is Bullying!
by J.E. DiMarco and M.K. Newman
Solutions for Bullying
http://www.solutionsforbullying.com/Indentify.html

The Long Term Effects of Bullying
by Mark Dombeck, Ph.D.
MentalHealth.net Updated: July 24, 2007
http://www.mentalhelp.net/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=13057

11 Facts About Cyber Bullying
DoSomething.org
http://www.dosomething.org/tipsandtools/11-facts-about-cyber-bullying

Bullying and Teasing: No Laughing Matter
Education.com
http://www.scholastic.com/resources/article/bullying

Accusations of Bullying After Death of Teenager
by Matt Flegenheimer   |   The New York Times   |   January 3, 2012
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/04/nyregion/accusations-of-bullying-after-death-of-staten-island-teen.html

Granite Bay teen who committed suicide was bullied for being gay
by Cynthia Hubert   |   The Sacramento Bee.   |   January 15, 2012
http://www.sacbee.com/2012/01/15/4188596/granite-bay-teen-who-committed.html

Phoebe Prince bullies sentenced, but how do they make things right?
by Stacy Teicher Khadaroo   |   The Christian Science Monitor   |   May 5, 2011
http://www.csmonitor.com/USA/Justice/2011/0505/Phoebe-Prince-bullies-sentenced-but-how-do-they-make-things-right

Bullying in the Stateline: One Student’s Story
by Lauren Kravets   |   WIFR.com.   |   Aug 10, 2011
http://www.wifr.com/home/headlines/Bullying_in_the_Stateline_One_Middle_Schoolers_Story_127487743.html

Phoebe Prince’s Final Days: Bullied Girl Suffered ‘Intolerable’ Abuse Before Suicide, Say Court Docs
by Carlin DeGuerin Miller   |   CBS News.   |   April 9, 2010.
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-20002132-504083.html

Is My Child Being Bullied? Action Steps for Parents
by Mary L. Pulido, Ph.D.   |   The Huffington Post   |   January 12, 2012.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mary-l-pulido-phd/is-my-child-being-bullied_b_1199696.html

StopCyberbullying.org
http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/

Bullying Prevention Information: Resources for Schools
by Warren Throckmorton, PhD (2005)
http://www.drthrockmorton.com/respectandthefacts/documents/bullyingprevention.pdf

Teasing and Bullying: No Laughing Matter: What you must know –
even if you don’t think it affects your child

by Townsend-Butterworth   |   Scholastic Parents
http://www2.scholastic.com/browse/article.jsp?id=1438

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Essential Strategies for Bullyproofing Your Child This School Year
by Signe Whitson, L.S.W.   |   Psychology Today   |   September 15, 2011
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/passive-aggressive-diaries/201109/essential-strategies-bullyproofing-your-child-school-year